Why Your First Message Still Gets Ignored — And How to Fix It Instantly

The Match Is Just the Beginning — Your First Message Is Everything

You match. You’re excited.
You type something like “Hey, how’s your week?”
And then… silence. Again.

If this keeps happening, it’s not bad luck. It’s not the algorithm.
It’s your opener — and how it’s being read.

Let’s talk about why you’re being ignored — and how to turn that around instantly.

Why Most First Messages Fail

The average woman on a dating app gets 20–50 new messages a day.
To stand out, your message can’t feel like background noise. And most do.
Here’s what gets ignored automatically:

• “Hey”
• “How are you?”
• “What’s up?”
• “You’re cute”

These don’t spark anything. They require effort to respond to. They feel… lazy.

Your Message Isn’t the Problem — It’s the Lack of Intent

When you send a first message, you’re not starting a conversation.
You’re starting a feeling.

If she doesn’t feel anything — surprise, curiosity, amusement, confidence — she’ll move on.

So What Should You Say Instead?

You want to trigger three things:

1. A reason to reply
2. A sense of fun or intrigue
3. A feeling like this guy gets it

Here are openers that hit all three:

• “My serotonin levels after matching with you 😏 What’s one thing you wish you did more of?”
• “Quick question: would you rather live in a city made of books or a cabin with no Wi-Fi?”
• “You seem like someone who knows what she’s doing. Am I right or horribly wrong?”

These create engagement, not just attention.

How Dizzy Makes It Ridiculously Easy

Don’t know what to say? Dizzy does.

Just upload a screenshot of her profile or the chat — and Dizzy:

• Analyzes the vibe
• Picks the right emotional tone
• Gives you 3 openers based on your selected style (funny, romantic, sexy, dirty)

You don’t have to guess what works. You get results — instantly.

Every First Message Is a Test — Dizzy Helps You Pass It

Your message can make her smile.
It can make her stop scrolling.
It can be the start of something real.

👉 Use Dizzy, say the right thing, and finally get replies that go somewhere.